An extract from an article that I recently read on Rookie:
As a feminist, my job is to argue that women are people. And here’s the thing about people: in my experience, when you get to know them, they’re all pretty screwed up. At the very least, they’re imperfect. And I think our feminist characters ought to reflect that.
At its best, feminism argues against the impossible standards created by the patriarchy for women, standards none of us can ever live up to, and which keep all of us in a state of permanent insecurity. But at its worst, feminism can create impossibly high standards, which make us even more guilty when we fail them. We have to be strong and independent! But also sensitive and empathetic to the needs of others! And also in touch with our sexualities! But not dependent on our sex appeal and/or male approval! We must own and reclaim our vulnerabilities and femininities! But also, we must not be emotional or personal or frivolous or soft, you know, like girls are! We must love our bodies, even in a culture that works nonstop to make us hate them! We must also love other women, even in a culture where women are raised to compete with and distrust one another! And we must love feminism! All the time! Even though we are exhausted now! From trying to live up to it! And, most important: we can never, ever, ever be wrong.
This describes exactly how I feel. Compared to the rest of the population, I feel naive and unaware of most of the problems even though I am constantly trying to educate myself on these things. I've never experienced misogyny like other women and girls have so I can't say much about that topic. It's frustrating because I've always felt passionate about this movement. I want change, I want equality -- not just between genders but between everyone else as well, I want to be a part of this change and be one of the reason for this change. I've always felt like I have so much to say, and I'm always afraid my opinions might be wrong -- which is a dumb thing to think of -- or that someone might challenge my views and prove me wrong. Maybe I'm just intimidated? Maybe I'm just inexperienced? Maybe I just don't know how to express my thoughts properly? Maybe I'm just overwhelmed? I have no idea but I am learning as I go.